it’s a hot topic on the socials and mainstream media right now.
Marketing companies trying to entice you to buy their latest face mask/ pair of shoes/ gadget/ spa weekend away. Self-care is not all bubble baths, face masks and foot massages, and sure these things are all valid and can make you feel great temporarily, but are they looking after ‘future you’?
Let’s break down what self-care actually is:
Self-care is a little more base than buying luxury items,
the core of self-care is prioritising YOU and what is best for YOU!
Self-care looks like:
- staying home on a Friday night to read that epic novel you can’t put down
- seeing your accountant and having your tax return up to date
- reading The Barefoot Investor and putting together your financial goals for the year
- hitting yoga or f45 when you really want to sleep in
- saying no to the shit you hate
- saying YES to shit you love
- eating well
Self-care is self-discipline.
Are you putting you first?
Are you putting on your own oxygen mask before assisting others?
To me, the most important non-negotiable act of self-care in my week is to hit the farmers market on a Sunday morning, purchasing local, spray free and super fresh produce. I prefer to stay in most Saturday nights so I can finish off the weekend right. Waking up early on a Sunday morning to get organised for the week is a gift that I give to myself.
By practising this ritual each week, you send the message to yourself and the universe,
‘I am worthy’.
I am worthy of being organised.
I am worth more than rushing around in a panic after work every night wondering ‘WTF am I gonna eat for dinner?’
I am worthy of being looked after.
I am worthy of whole and nourishing foods.
I am worthy of spending time doing things I love instead of being stuck in the kitchen in an anxious mess.
I am worthy of health and vibrancy.
How do you expect to look and feel a million bucks if you are eating shitty fast food delivered via uber eats?
After hitting the farmers markets, I come home, pop the kettle on and start organising for the week:
- chopping up carrot, cucumber, celery and capsicum sticks for snacks – store these in a container half filled with water for freshness and crunch even on Day 3
- juicing ingredients chopped or at least in the same tub so they are ready to go each morning
- Meal Prep – it’s time to get your batch cook on baby! Double or triple the recipe to see you through the week. I usually have the slow cooker going, a casserole pot simmering on the stove, veggies roasting in the oven and a salad minus the dressings.
- These can be stored in portion sized containers so your mornings can be a little less hectic AND you’ll be saving a bucket load of cash by not buying your lunch every day.
Being healthy is much easier than people assume, its actually just a case of being organised.
I lovingly call bullshit on people who tell me they don’t have time. If I can juggle full time work, a side hustle of being a wellness advocate for Doterra essential oils, supporting my doterra team, daily exercise AND a social life, then you can certainly get yo ass down to the farmers market and spend a couple of hours in the kitchen on a Sunday.
If improving your health was one of your New Year Goals start making it a priority!
Make your self-care time a non-negotiable.
If you can pencil in a date with friends then you can certainly pencil in a self-care date for yourself! I remember when John Howard was the Prime Minister, he scheduled his daily 60 minute walk every single morning - non-negotiable.
I’m pretty sure none of us have as much on our plate as the Prime Minister….. just sayin.
Is being hungover and feeling like a dropped pie on a Sunday morning serving you?
Is eating rubbish and starting the week off on a sugar and coffee come down being your best damn self?
Start treating yourself like the fricking QUEEN that you are!
It’s time to change your habits, girl.
Someone has to be the trailblazer of your group of mates, why not you?
Instead of the standard ‘meeting the girls for drinks’ every weekend, why don’t you change it up?
Saturday or Sunday: make an epic morning date of it, meet up with your buddies, go for a walk, grab your reusable bags and shop together, have a juice and chat afterwards.
I love seeing families doing their weekly fruit and vege shop together. Kids love feeling useful, get them in the kitchen doing age appropriate tasks or have them sit with you while you get organised in the kitchen. Chuck on some awesome tunes and have some 90’s RnB dance offs, bring the fun and it becomes less of a chore.
One of my lovely patients recently shared with me that she doesn’t like her kitchen space, I am a huge advocate for making your kitchen pretty! Get some indoor plants, hang some colourful artwork, open the windows, pump the peppermint and lemon essential oils in the diffuser, buy some kitchen stools so the fam can be with you rather than in a different room so you don’t feel cut off from what everyone else is up to. Make the kitchen the social hub for the family while you’re doing your thang, make meal prep a time for creating irreplaceable family quality time.
After all, food is one of life’s great connectors!
A note for parents: your kids are always watching and will imitate your habits, lifestyle choices and emotional patterns. Are you proud of what you are teaching your kids? Are you gifting them a life of wellness and healthy choices or are you setting them up for disease processes?
Some food for thought.